Wedding project ideas and style how-tos for brides, bridal jewelry designers and wedding planners.
You want to pop the question, but you don't know her ring size and if you just ask then it ruins the surprise. Here are a couple ways to try and figure out her wedding ring size so the proposal will still be a surprise.
Before we get started, here are a couple things to keep in mind:
#1. Trace it Out
The trick though is she probably doesn't wear the borrowed ring on her left ring finger. Pay attention to which finger she wears the ring on and adjust accordingly: +2 sizes from pinky, -1/2 from middle and -1 from pointer (index).
#2. String Theory
|#3. Fun Factoid
If you don't normally offer random tidbits of information, you may want to start coming up with a few so this ring size test won't seem out of the ordinary. Tell your girl you heard that if you take your shoe size and divide it by two then add three it will equal your ring finger size. You also have to do this so it won't be so obvious you're just after her size. Even have other friends participate. When she tries it out, you'll need the paper ring sizer on hand, though you could pretend to have to search for it online first. ;)
#4. Ask a Friend
Are any of her (or your) friends engaged or married? Ask that friend to (in a nonchalant manner) get your girl to try on their ring. Choose someone with similar-sized fingers for this tactic. This can also help you get an idea of styles your girlfriend likes if you ask what she thought about the friend's ring. (Do this in private in case she didn't like it.)
|#5. Little White Lie
Okay, that sounds bad, but just tell her you want to buy a ring for your Mom, sister or some other female relative (this is most effective around holidays or birthdays of your female relatives). Flat out ask what some of her finger sizes are (including the left ring finger). If she doesn't know, then use ring sizers or the handy PDF we've mentioned so much. And, you could still buy a ring for your female relative so you won't feel like you lied the whole time.
|#6. The Distraction
Buy an inexpensive ring in a size you estimate to fit her as a little gift. See how that size of ring fits her and on what fingers. Use adjustable rings so she could try it on multiple fingers. This gives you a great starting point and makes it easier to ballpark the big purchase ring. Plus, she probably won't expect a second ring in such a short amount of time.
Best of luck and let us be the first to say congratulations on your engagement!
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